About the Site

involuntarySASS is a go-through life guide, lifestyle blog.

involuntarySASS encourages its readers to develop tools that allow them to build a strong sense of self. Readers will be able to laugh with others, discover details about themselves, and improve their personal skills until they become second nature…or involuntary.

SASS— refers to the occasional stylistic choices and asides written by the blog’s author; not as a suggestion or (implication) to disregard other humans and public space.

involuntarySASS is updated weekly, on Tuesdays.

Fan of the design? Carly Anne created all of the images and visual branding for involuntarySASS! LOVE YOU!!

A massive thank you to Eric Ellis for taking the fantastic photos shown on this page.

About the Author

My aim for this blog is to teach you how to better some facet of your life. I do that by offering my experiences and highlighting the experiences of those I have forged relationships with.

First generation American. My parents dropped everything and traveled to the United States from Nigeria over 30 years ago. My siblings — Mary and Anthony — (who are 13 and 10 years older than me, respectively) are two of the greatest people I have ever met.

I was born 4 months premature (that’s a fact I like to brag about, miracle baby, 1 pound 4 ounces, better than your fave, etc etc)

I grew up in Central Minnesota —  which is 84.6% White (that’s important)

My boyfriend, Steve Black Jr. and I have been together since April 2011. We have 3 cats.

I graduated from Marquette University with degrees in Political Science (Concentration: Law and Politics) and Public Relations.

I am currently a Communications Specialist at a Midwestern law firm.

I fight against mental illness every day.

All of the above are things to keep in mind when reading the words posted here. Those tidbits help form who I am, or, my identity. My identity directly correlates to my perceptions and opinions — which may differ from yours, but does not make them any more or less valid.

i am so thrilled that you are here because it means you are:

  1. Interested in bettering your life;
  2. Opening yourself to new perspectives;
  3. None of the above; maybe you just want to read about fandom flailing— which is still great!

For as long as I can remember, I have been trying to define “who” I am as a person and “why” I am the way I am.

I didn’t know why it felt like everyone was breezing through life without any problems, and I was barely keeping my head above water.

I didn’t know why I was sad for “no reason.”

I didn’t know why I had incessant worries about everything under the sun.

I didn’t know why I thought I wasn’t good enough.

After a recent (brutal) self-assessment, I got slapped in the face by reality and decided that enough was enough. I began to make changes in my everyday life. This decision resulted in my losing over 30 pounds, becoming more confident in my opinions, and realizing the value of my self-worth.

However, it’s HARD to make these changes, and it’s even more difficult to stick to them. I understand that. Hopefully I’ll be able to teach you methods to help you on your journey, and you can join me on mine.

It is my wish that involuntarySASS will make you laugh, cry, and roll your eyes at my experiences. I hope this website brings some value to you.

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